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No Equality! Fair Fights Do Not Exist. Learn How To Tip The Scales In Your Favor

Updated: Oct 30, 2023

“If you find yourself in a fair fight, your tactics suck.” That's a quote by John Steinbeck that is timeless and offers the basic simple truth that there is No equality in self-defense.


Self-defense is a fundamental human right, but the ability to defend oneself is not always equal. Individuals differ greatly in terms of physical capabilities, including strength, size, agility, and endurance.


However, the spirit of self-defense knows no boundaries, and countless stories of people overcoming physical inequality in self-defense situations inspire us to adapt, learn, and empower ourselves. In this article, we explore these inspiring narratives and the valuable lessons they teach us. Someone will always have an advantage. Advantages could be in the form of;

  • First strike

  • Physical Size

  • Physical Strength

  • Skill Level

  • Multiple opponents

  • Weapon

  • Foreknowledge of conflict ambush

  • Conditioning

  • Cheat

Biology and Genetics

The average American male is 5.9 in. and weighs in at 197lbs. The average American female is 5 feet 4 in. and weighs 170lbs. That is an average 30 lbs of weight and 5 inches in height and reach difference.

No Equality! Fair Fights Do Not Exist. Learn How To Tip The Scales In Your Favor
No Equality! Fair Fights Do Not Exist. Learn How To Tip The Scales In Your Favor

In addition, A study in the Journal of Applied Physiology found that men had an average of 26 lbs. (12 kilograms) more skeletal muscle mass than women. Women also exhibited about 40 percent less upper-body strength and 33 percent less lower-body strength, on average, the study found. Remember these differences are averages so the disparity could be even greater.


In this day and age, even professional mixed martial arts MMA leagues like the UFC wouldn't pair fighters with such drastic differences, even if it was male fighting a male.


There are major biological differences between men and women however, it doesn't mean give up the fight, quite the contrary.


Take ownership and let this truth help you to get informed enough so you acquire more advantages on your side. Some of us can control while others you cannot.


In fact, this logic can apply to any male or female that recognized it and take the steps to make changes. Avoid the opponent's strength and attack their weakness.


Control What You Can Control


1. Knowledge is Power:


One of the most significant equalizers in self-defense is knowledge. Learning effective self-defense techniques and strategies can compensate for physical limitations. This knowledge empowers individuals to use leverage, timing, and technique to defend themselves, often rendering physical strength irrelevant.


Realistic training across all the disciplines on the threat timeline will protect you from situations. The violence itself is the last event to occur on a timeline of various threats that can be detected.


2. Adaptation and Strategy:


Adaptation is a key theme in self-defense for those with physical limitations. It involves understanding your strengths and weaknesses and strategically using them to your advantage. For example, a person with limited mobility may focus on creating and maintaining distance to avoid confrontations or use verbal de-escalation techniques effectively.


3. Use of Tools and Technology:


Technology has played a crucial role in leveling the playing field in self-defense. Personal safety devices such as pepper spray, personal alarms, and self-defense apps provide individuals with tools to protect themselves. These devices can be particularly valuable for those who may not have the physical advantage in a physical altercation.


An equalizer in the form of a weapon. Firearms or at least a knife both require training and regular practice. Depending on where you live, you may have no choice other than a knife. Knives are a very effective choice. Make the fight unfair in your favor. Stack as many advantages as you can b


eforehand. As always don't be paranoid just be mindful.


4. Confidence and Mental Strength:


Confidence and mental strength are vital aspects of self-defense. Individuals who have overcome physical inequality often emphasize the importance of believing in oneself and staying calm under pressure. Confidence can be a deterrent to potential attackers and provide the mental clarity needed to make effective decisions in stressful situations.


5. Community and Support:



Supportive communities and self-defense training centers play a crucial role in empowering individuals to overcome physical inequalities. In these environments, individuals can learn from experienced instructors, build confidence, and train with peers who provide encouragement and motivation.


6. Legal and Ethical Considerations:


Understanding the legal and ethical aspects of self-defense is critical for everyone, regardless of physical capability. Knowing when and how to defend oneself within the bounds of the law ensures that individuals can protect themselves while avoiding unnecessary legal repercussions.


Physical inequality should never be a barrier to personal safety and self-defense. The stories of individuals who have overcome these challenges serve as a testament to human resilience and adaptability.


Through knowledge, adaptation, the use of tools, mental strength, community support, and a firm understanding of legal and ethical considerations, anyone can empower themselves to protect their safety effectively. Self-defense is not limited by physical attributes but driven by the determination to stay safe and secure in an unpredictable world.


Violence Prevention and Self Defense Resources

The goal of the Center for Violence Prevention and Self Defense is to stop violence by educating at-risk people and empower them with the skills needed to protect themselves both online and live training. CVPSD's live training is available to people of all ages in New Jersey including children, adults and the elderly.


As a 501(c)3 nonprofit, our mission is to prevent violence by building skills and inspiring individuals to be agents of personal, community & cultural change.


Live conceptual seminars teach the origins of violence and how to assess risk and set boundaries for healthy relationships. Experiential classes teach hands-on interpersonal skills and strategies to prevent and stop assault. Our self defense instruction includes techniques from Jujutsu, MMA, krav maga, Kickboxing, and more.


The Center for Violence Prevention and Self Defense reaches individuals and communities through partnerships with schools and other nonprofits, community groups, as well as classes for the public. By reducing the fear and impact of violence, we help to create a community where people live powerfully, experience freedom.



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